Gabrielle Union, 46, and Dwyane Wade welcomed their daughter Kaavia via surrogate on November 7th, and the actress is opening up once again about their journey to get there.

Previously, Union divulged that she had an astounding “eight or nine” miscarriages before considering surrogacy. She was diagnosed with adenomyosis, a condition that causes the lining of the uterus to break through the muscle wall. In a video on Instagram, she shares more of their story, saying that, to her, fertility issues felt “a lot like shame.”

“For us, it’s our embryo, so our surrogate has no genetic tie to our baby. We will be in the room as our child comes into the world,” Union explains in the clip. “We’re just so grateful and thankful for the gift that they’ve given us.”

“Every family is unique. How each family is created and comes together is special,” Union wrote. “Kaavia James Union Wade’s journey into our arms was long and at times brutal. There were heartbreaks that nearly broke us and streams of tears that turned into raging rivers.”

She adds, “And then came Kaavia James. This is our birth journey. Thank you all for the love, support and understanding and all the people who held us up when we lost hope.”